Yesterday I lost a friend I’ve never met. Not physically, that is. That’s one of the wonders of cyberspace. That
you can meet so many people who become friends, even if you’ve never actually
“met” them, people you know as well and sometimes better than the people you
work with every day.
Nowhere is this truer than in the world of e-books
writers. I entered the professional
world of e-books in 2011, a raw newbie who’d written for twenty years and
promptly thrown each completed book in the closet. The world of e-publishing opened
opportunities for writers unheard of in the traditional publishing industry. My first book was accepted for publication in
April, 2011. I was overwhelmed, excited
as all get-out, and scared to death. The
writers of e-publishing companies connect with each other via e-mail (fancy
that) and I read every e-mail with bated breath, taking note of names and
forming impressions of each writer. It
didn’t take long for me to take note of a gentleman by the name of Dale Thompson
who wrote as Pat Dale. And quite
frankly, he scared the hell out of me.
Dale Thompson said what he meant and meant what he
said. He had firm opinions and he pulled
no punches. And I resolved to stay way under his radar. Then I wrote my first blog, a guest blog
actually, before I’d ever set up either of my own two blogs. That particular blog was a memorial to a dear
friend I’d lost a few years back, an explanation as to why, when my first blog
went up, it was going to be dedicated to her memory and named “Flowers on the
Fence.”
Dale Thompson, aka Pat Dale was the last person I expected to stop in and read that guest blog. But he did.
And he left a comment wherein he told me I’d left him “teary-eyed”. I
emailed him privately to thank him as opposed to thanking him in the “writers
loop” where the writers generally corresponded. That was the beginning of a
friendship I will always treasure.
Already multi-published (whereas I still didn’t have my first book out),
he became one of my mentors, offering the benefits of his experience.
He was a Renaissance Man, a professional musician, a
teacher, a writer. A student of the
human condition. I had a very long book that had haunted me for twenty
years. Sometimes I thought it was
wonderful. Sometimes I thought it was awful.
But having become a “professional”, I knew it had become a mishmash of evolving styles as I’d worked on
it through the years and learned a bit of writing craftsmanship. I didn’t know what to do with it, whether I
should re-write what was already there or just delete it in its entirety and
start over.
I sent the first few chapters to Dale and explained the
situation. And told him I was really close to just deleting the whole thing and
being done with it. He sent back, “Do.
Not. Discard. This. Book. Do you hear me?” That’s a direct quote, with exact
punctuation. I’ve got that kind of
memory, a handy thing for a writer to have.
That book became two books, actually, The Color of Seven and The
Color of Dusk, published individually and as the Dark series set.
Very shortly after that, Dale announced to the writers’
loops (we both published with two of the same publishing companies) that he’d
been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, which had been discovered much earlier
than pancreatic cancer is usually diagnosed, which was an awesomely good
thing. Unhappy with the course of
treatment described by his first set of doctors, he sought a second opinion. Actually, as he said, his wife Patricia
sought a second opinion and discovered a wonderful set of doctors with a highly
successful protocol for treatment.
Dale Thompson loved his wife. It was obvious in every word he wrote about
her and his family. Married for over
thirty-five years, I’ve seldom known a man so in love with his wife. That love, for Patricia and for his family
and for life in general, pulled him through.
At the onset of treatment, when he knew he’d be out of touch for weeks, maybe
months at a time, he emailed me, “I’m not going down without a fight”. I sent back, “No, old friend, neither of us
is going gentle into that good night.”
He fought. He
won. That’s both the beauty and the
sadness of his death. Before Thanksgiving,
the doctors declared him cancer free. He
had a wonderful Thanksgiving and Christmas with his family. He began to re-gain weight. He worked on his books, not that he’d ever
really stopped that, no writer ever does.
If all else fails, we just write in our memories and hope enough
survives for future translation to the computer screen.
On January 4, 2013, Dale Thompson, also known as Pat Dale,
died of a massive heart attack. And no,
he did not go gentle into that good night.
He went in triumph, a warrior who’d won his battle and left a legacy.
His books will remain up and available. In fact, Magic
of the Chimes will publish very shortly, his final gift to us. And so goodbye and Godspeed, old friend. I
never met you, but I loved you. And I’ll
miss you.
Beautiful memorial, Gail. :)
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful testimonial. Makes me sad I never got to know him.
ReplyDeleteThanks for putting into words what many of us all thought and felt as well.
ReplyDeleteVery well put, Gail. A lovely memorial.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful.
ReplyDeleteYour eloquence highlights what many of us are grappling with right now. Well done Gail. I know Dale's essence was right there beside you as you created this heartfelt memorial for a man we will all miss.
ReplyDeleteVery poignantly written. I didn't know him, except through our author email list, but your tribute brought tears to my eyes.
ReplyDeleteYou said it for all of us. Only the other week, we had been having a discussion about writing and food and other things, and his profound thinking kept me enthralled.
ReplyDeleteAs always, Gail, your warmth and spirit came through in this heart wrenching memorial to our dear Muse member. You are right that we make friendships so close it feels like we're talking over coffee, on the internet. You captured this here and what a wonderful tribute to him. You and I will have coffee together one day soon!!!
ReplyDeleteAw, Gail, you did Dale justice. Beautiful.
ReplyDeleteTouching and fabulous, Gail.
ReplyDeleteThank you all for coming over. I'm not responding to individual comments as I always try to do because this wasn't about me, or my stories, or my books. It was about Pat, a place for us to remember him. Writing it made me feel better. Proofing it was hard. I started crying every time I started re-reading it.
ReplyDeleteLovely words, Gail. Dale would approve. I've known him since we were both under contract years ago with a now-defunct publisher. He wrote one of the first reviews for my first release, and I've always found him to be a most encouraging and entertaining gentleman. He left us his books and a wealth of fond memories.
ReplyDeleteGail: We'll all miss Dale. I didn't realize he was the one who saved the Dark series. Having read it, I'm so glad you sent it to him, and heeded his advice. I only knew him from the loop, but I respected him. I'm sending prayers and healing energy to his family and you and Lea and anyone else who was close to him and is hurting right now.
ReplyDeleteLove and Hugs,
Rochelle
Thank you for this touching tribute to our fellow writer. Your words are comforting to us and to his family.
ReplyDeleteGail - what a lovely tribute to Dale and his family. It's beautiful...lots of tears in this corner.
ReplyDeleteHugs.
Gail,
ReplyDeleteThank you for writing such kind words about my father. We loved him dearly and miss him daily.
Mikki (his youngest)
He was very special. He loved your mother and all of you with every fiber of his being. And there's this thing about writers -- we have immortality of a sort. Everytime you re-read one of his books, you'll hear him reading the words.
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